How To Feel Sexy

A lot harder said than done; with no chance of getting in the shower with baby spit and more than likely some sick too on your shoulder and down your back, a baggy pair of maternity pants on with breast so heavy they feel like they really are melons.
It is even worse if you have, like so many of us, have fallen for the celebrity mums propaganda that you could get your body back to normal (or even better than before) within weeks. We had a real shock when we still looked a good six months pregnant afterwards and four weeks later it still wasn’t much better. The baby had gone but we was left with a wobbly blob. we was fortunate enough to love my pregnant body but when the baby was out we really didn’t.

I craved being pregnant again so that we could feel proud and in love with myself again. Your body has changed and is going to take time and a bit of effort to get back to how it used to be, Mother Nature didn’t make it too easy either. The type of food you are likely to be able to eat over the first few months is fast and grabable from a fridge, usually full of fat. The skin around your middle will inevitably wobble a bit and instead of feeling sexy and desirable you feel haggard, tired, and lots more besides. So how do you feel attractive enough?

Cover up, there is no rule to say you have to strip naked to make love or initiate a quick fumble. The challenge here is to get him to keep his hands from ripping your clothes off you, let him explore underneath your top if you want or on top of them guide him to where you feel comfortable. This in itself can be an alluring way to keep him coming back for more. You could keep your bra on too help you feel supported and a little more buxom rather than saggy and floppy. A lot of men enjoy the air of mystery that this creates. Still feeling a sight for sore eyes? Turn the main light off and put a less powerful side lamp on to create a little soft lighting resulting in a more romantic atmosphere.

If you can afford it treat yourself to some new underwear that isn't for breast feeding or practical purposes. Perhaps a lovely set that covers you up, PJs or a teddie.

If you think that you may be able to plan a night, afternoon, morning or five minutes of passion then you might be able to dig out something that still fits and makes you feel good. As irritating as it is, it may be that you put on a maternity top, as it will cover up your left over bump and perhaps a pair of sexy knickers to finish the look. Boobs have gone through some changes too, they could be bigger than before but with that you may have experienced more veins and stretch marks. Nursing bras do nothing for sexiness
Feeling sexy is a mindset as much as anything else. You may be getting ready to live off statutory maternity pay and have spent more money than makes sense on baby grow or nursing bras but you deserve to treat yourself too, you have just brought a new life into the world, you are amazing and going out to get something that makes you feel good is not an expense too far and we strongly suspect that your partner will appreciate you spending a few pounds if it means he gets some treats as a result. Depending how much support you have will depend on how much time you can get for yourself. All the books say it but if you get the opportunity to take some time for yourself you should. Even if it is just ten minutes take the chance to do any or all of the following; have a good shower or even batter a long soak in the tub, shave, wax, get your face scrub out, slap on a bit of make up, paint your toe nails, moisturise your whole body, get out of the house, read a non-baby book, do a bit of gardening, play a bit of online poker. It may feel strange to think about yourself or completely natural but not wrong. You need to look after yourself so that you can look after your baby well.