It's natural to dislike your partner

Lots of couples find this beginning stage of parenthood one of the most trying and difficult experiences of their entire relationship. Who ever put round the idea that having children cements your relationship was not living in our century. Let’s face it you have been under a lot of stress, lack of sleep and a barrage of emotions. Once the adrenalin rush of a new baby has faded and the realisation that you may not get a full nights sleep for perhaps another year or so creeps in who can you dispel your fears and anger on. Naturally your nearest and dearest. You don’t want to get frustrated with your baby so your partner it the obvious choice and he may be doing the same. This means the squabbles and bickering can really get you down. Depending where he falls on the wonderful scale you could find yourself contemplating life as a single parent and wishing he would let you get on with it to the temptation to leave the baby with him all weekend so he understands what you are doing every day of the week either way, sex isn’t your priority. But here’s where it can be the most fun. Why not try a kiss instead of eyeing him up as the bastard that got you into this.
You’re absorbed in so many things that don’t relate to one another expect through your child and as massive as that is, it isn’t enough to make you like each other. You do love him; somewhere in all the irritating advice he seems to have gained from nowhere which fluctuates with a sudden and complete lack interest in the baby’s routine, is a man you have had some good times with and you will again. A choice here could be that you can just use him sexually, make sure you get what you want and don’t worry about if you have had a civil conversation this week.
It may seem like you spend none of your time together so the advice to take some time apart is misplaced but this is meant to be some advice to get out, without the baby. He fell in love with you because of the person you were without the baby. (He is in love with you now because he loves you and not because you have his baby) So get out and remind yourself of who she is, even if you only manage a swift half in your local do it, make all those other mums you’ve met at baby sing-a long to come with you, talk about babies for half of your time and then talk about your first job, your first boyfriend, your first driving test, anything that is pre baby. When you get back and see him with refreshed eyes you may like him a little bit more, and even if you don’t at least you like yourself a whole lot more. You may find that if he gets turn to do this then it will also make you appreciate each other more. Having a baby can mean you become too focused on being in with the baby and forgetting all that life has to offer. He may be craving a night out with the lads and if you suggest it not only can you ensure you have some mates of your own coming round but you look like the most amazing wife/girlfriend ever. This should also contribute to him seeing you as Ms wonderful the whole night long and well into the next day and if you are lucky week. Remember that he will probably drink too much and will be next to useless all night long and the next day. If you tell yourself this is okay then it might be, prepare, have a place to go without him, get your best friend or mum round to help out for that morning; anything to stop you having to listen to him moan or snore or both.
And when you find someone you trust to look after your little one for an hour or two go out together. A walk to the shops holding hands and baby free can do wonders. The routine can be put on hold for one evening once in while and even though it may break your heart each time you hear them cry because they aren’t being held by you, they will survive it. So easy to say and so very hard to do but your child deserves the very best and happy parents do a much better job then irritated, angry and frustrated ones.