Legs Akimbo

Gently does it, positions will make a difference to how comfortable you can be.

As your mother said in the first place, keep your legs together. One of the best positions is a little like spooning; you both get to lie down and he tucks his legs up so one of his legs in on the bed and he is chair shaped and you have your back on the bed and sit on his lap. This means you are forced to be slow and gentle as it is hard for him to get up a momentum in this position and also it prevents him from being able to get too deep; you are in control and can keep your legs together which decreases the stress on your newly recovering stitches.

Like when you first thought, how am I going to poo without ripping myself a part, this first experience of penetrative sex is not your idea of fun and seems physically impossible.

Lube up - you may not normally use it but it will help both of you.


Similarly if he goes into you from behind you can keep your legs shut but he has the chance to get more carried away with this position and may inadvertently go a bit to fast but he can’t get as deep.
To be fully in control, you need to tie him down, probably a little time consuming and if the baby does need the attention of one of its parents quickly then you have to do it so avoid this. You could experiment with telling him not to move and let you do all of it, this is not only a turn on for a lot of men but also ends up being a great workout for your thighs. Jump on top and control how far in you let him, you do have to spread your legs for this one so try it when you are more confident about the stinging issue.

Missionary, an oldie but a goody because you get to lie back and forget about England but he tends to be in  control. This position and others where he is mostly in control need to be when you know you can get him to slow down or be less pushy or speed up.