What if he doesn’t want it?

Avoid telling him how ugly and saggy and milk machine etc. you feel just before you plan to seduce him. You probably do feel terrible but he doesn’t need reminding of it. He may be scared of hurting you, you’ll have to reassure him that you’ll be honest and take it slow. He may feel that he is too tired to try and the you might try to give him a massage, neck rub, if he falls asleep the you’ll have given him what he wanted and if it leads to something more then you’ll have given him what he wanted. Perhaps he needs to see you as someone other than a mother again. You may not be a couple that talks about sex a lot but if you suspect he looks at you just as mother then do a bit of reminiscing. Probably best not to launch straight into ‘ do you remember that rime we shagged up against your full length mirror in your flat in Hull.’ But remind him of what was happening before that, and let his mind wander to the mirror episode. If you do talk about sex then go for it, verbally reminding yourselves of the good times and it may even be worth reminding yourselves of a few bad times too, laugh about them of you can.